I Went Out With A Dreamboat and It Went Well - Now What?!
December 17, 2013 11:14 PM Subscribe
I'm really inexperienced with these things, so forgive me! I went on a first date with a wonderful dude- he's one of those mind-blowingly amazing dudes, too cool for school, super amazingly successful, a fantastic artist, puts every inch of his abilities to full use, makes the best of himself and all his abilities..He's a dreamboat in everyway.
I've known him from online for a few years. And we'd run into each other once in a while and say hi.
He asked me out about a year ago, canceled on me the morning of our date and then didn't contact me again. Then a few weeks ago he asked me out and we weren't able to make a time to hang out (actually, I suggested Monday and he got back to me Monday evening saying he's too busy.)
Then we decided to hang out yesterday. The date went very well!
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He's a really nice guy, too. In the beginning, me being a very intense/passionate lady, I think I was a bit...well, intense. And he said so--he said "it's a little intense, you should chill out for a second" and then I apologized and I did.
The date (which he didn't even call a date! But I really hope it was, and he mentioned my being very pretty and things during asking to hang out, and if I have a boyfriend/whatnot so I presumed it was meant to be) proceeded really well! For three hours we debated about all kinds of things very important to me(without arguing, just debating and learning) and we learned so much about each other. He was a gentleman and said a few times that I'm a great person, that he's having fun and that he'd like to hang out again. That I'm very intelligent. He said it was great how much he learned from me in a few hours and that the exchange taught him a lot about me and some of the subject matter we discussed. He also touched my knee a few times and my shoulder as well. (lol)
All's well that ends well, right? Well, now I'm worried. This is a dude who's dated super-model-esque and badass girls, who's amazingly cool and successful, who's physically amazingly hot and could get any girl..but he also seems really compatible with me. I loved the way we connected and its rare. He said he'd like to hang out again and that he likes my talkative personality, and he said a few times that I seem like a wonderful person.
How many days do I wait for him to text me again to 'hang out'? (btw, he has not phrased our hanging out as a date, but he did pay for my drinks and offered to pay for a cab home which is sweet). Should I text him again? I want to, but I'd like to be asked out properly...and I don't know if in the ACTUAL WORLD asking a dude out is a very effective, feminine way of doing things in the romantic world.
When a guy is this cool, how likely is it that he means what he says? He seemed very earnest when we spoke and I didn't feel a millilitre of ingenuity--but as an astoundingly successful, sexy dude who could get any girl, he probably knows what to say, right? Ugh.
How can I deal with my putting him on a pedestal? How can I stop thinking about how great he is and how much I'd like him to text me again?
I'm so inexperienced, you know?
What do I do now?