I'm a 33-year-old woman living in San Francisco. I've been living here since April, so it hasn't been a long time. I'm still getting my bearings here.
Most of my friends here are coupled up, and everyone at work is too. I hardly know any single people here at all, and it's really getting to me when I realize that I'm the ONLY single person at a gathering or when everyone is talking about their significant others and families. Thanks to many, many life changes--like moving three times in two years--I've also been single for about four years.
I am pretty much an old soul, so the things I like to do are old people things (watch old movies, go to book talks, go to classical music concerts, etc.) The demographics here can be weird--the same things that I did in New York are what I do here--but I'm invariably the youngest person there by decades. I like to exercise (biking and jogging on the beach), but since I'm also asthmatic, I'm not one of these hardcore athlete types that you get around the Bay Area. Not much of a drinker either.
OKCupid (here's my profile
) has been mildly successful in that I'm meeting new men, but although they are nice we don't have much chemistry. I put in my profile in here because perhaps there is something off-putting about my appearance or the way that I'm presenting that I'm not aware of.
I'm looking to meet single, straight men in their 30s, quirky nerdy and geeky types who are looking for a long-term relationship. Where do I find them here? Besides online dating, I have tried asking my friends to set me up, going to OKCupid events, and volunteering. I used to do more Meetups when I lived in Mountain View, but I found that I was mostly meeting more couples or much older folks.