I think my neighbor is complaining about my noise because I previously complained about him to our landlord who is his boss. Should I wait to talk to him in person, which with our schedules could be days, write him a letter, or email our landlord? All three?
So last week my neighbor from this previous askme
, asked me to turn down my music. It was about 5 or 6pm and I was in fact playing this one song pretty loud, so I immediately apologized and turned it down.
Last night, Sunday around 8pm I had a friend over, we were talking and listening to music at a moderate level. (I was sitting next to the speakers and we were talking comfortably so I feel certain that it was objectively not very loud.) We decided to move out to the patio for a bit. I opened the door, walked toward the chairs outside and saw my upstairs neighbor standing in the middle of the stairs. He said "the music is loud, I already talked to you about it, I'm going to call the landlord"- then immediately ran back up the stairs as I called after him.
I can't help but suspect that he was just being vindictive. It was not late, the music was not that loud, etc. I mean he wouldn't even really talk to me or allow me to respond to him. I can't help but think, how long was he out there on the stairs? Why didn't he come down the rest of the way to talk to me? And then why did he run away!
Since the incident with my car, this guy rarely says hello back when I see him around the property and generally is cold to me. I understand I basically ratted on him to his boss, but have tried to be friendly. I know in the first incident I was
playing music excessively loud, but it wasn't late at night and I immediately responded to his request to turn it down.
I am bothered by having an uneasy relationship with a neighbor. I don't want to make it worse, but I also don't want to give in to unreasonable demands.
[Then again for all I know he's been annoyed by my music for the entire 5 months I've lived here and just hasn't said anything, maybe he has to wake up everyday at 4 in the morning, so 8pm is really late for him- I have no idea. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but all our interactions have been so strange.]
I had hoped to speak with him in person, but he hasn't been home yet, or perhaps is not responding to the door. Should I leave a note? I can't really say that I feel i ought to be super quiet before 10pm, maybe 9. . . Should I inform the landlord? Am I overreacting to all this?