so much for trip of a lifetime
December 11, 2013 4:44 PM Subscribe
In a few hours I'm about to board a flight that was supposed to include my girlfriend. except she broke up with me last month and now I'm flying alone and demoralized. How do I not make this trip suck more than it already does?
posted by divabat to Human Relations (10 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My ex has never left the US but embraced my home culture with more gusto than I've ever seen from anyone. As a Christmas treat I got together a joint ticket to bring her back home with me. It quickly became a big community effort and received a fair bit of attention.
Our relationship had been somewhat rocky for a while but we both did work hard together. Unfortunately things feel apart and a month ago, she left me. In a way it was inevitable and I don't entirely fault her for pulling the plug, but it still hurt afterwards especially when she spent the next few weeks being very public about my flaws and making some unfounded claims about my motives. The breakup was a lot gentler in comparison!
We haven't been in touch since the breakup, though I occasionally find out what's going on with her via mutual friends helping her out with life stuff. I know she was really looking forward to the trip and had hesitated on breaking up with me because of it.I sometimes think that if it wasn't for this trip idea we could at least still be friends of some sort instead of this angsty somewhat animous mess.
I did get refunds and such sorted, so administratively I'm ok, and my friends have been generally supportiv. But emotionally I'm a mess. I have an ambivalent relationship to my home country; my ex was the first person that made me appreciate it. My family has been pretty supportive and I'll get to catch up with my best friends...people I hoped to introduce my ex to. She was family to me .
I'll be away for a month. Where my family lives is kind of dull so I won't have a lot of distraction. I spent most of today an emotional wreck. How do I not make this trip suck more?