Pre-school playground politics.
December 11, 2013 4:21 AM Subscribe
My son is being kind of sort of bullied at pre-school and I want to know what--if anything--I can or should do about it.
posted by zardoz to Society & Culture (21 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I should qualify the word "bully," because it's not anything physical, but the situation does qualify that at least a bit. My son is four, in his middle year of preschool. He likes preschool a lot and is happy, but he is pretty shy and quiet, at least compared with the other boys in his class.
A dynamic that's happening recently, today he explained to us sadly, is that one boy in particular at preschool is excluding my son from joining the main clique during playtime. I'll call him Johnny. Johnny tells my son "No! You're not allowed, you can't join us!" So my son tries to join other pairs and groups, but the other kids--not all, but some--will mimic Johnny and exclude him as well. So my first instinct is to tell my son to just play with someone else, but Johnny as the Alpha Kid has kind of poisoned the well.
It just makes me sad that my son gets treated this way, but I can't get mad because Johnny and the others are just kids and aren't aware of any hurt they are doing. Talking with the teacher or any kid's parents seems like overkill...if I do anything I'd feel like a helicopter parent.
I know he should fight his own fights, but...is this a fight? I know I'm probably just overthinking all of this, but if any parents have had this situation, I'd love to hear how you handled it.