I know who I’d talk to, if only I could
December 10, 2013 10:57 AM Subscribe
How do you deal with the death of a good friend?
posted by unannihilated to Human Relations (23 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
Please – I have tried to read as many of the old threads on death and grief as I can find, and I’m not looking for stories about how people dealt with the death of their parent/sibling/child (even if like a best friend) or their partner/spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend or their old childhood friend that they spoke to once a year.
I’m not trying to invalidate anyone’s grief or how they felt about their relationships; I just cannot relate to these stories right now.
He was my friend and I saw him and talked to him all the time and now he’s suddenly gone. At no point was there anything romantic between us. We’re in our 30s and I thought we would be pals for a long time. It was an accident, not a suicide or illness or anything like that.
I’m looking to hear from anyone who has gone through the same thing. What do I do with so much grief? How is this going to go? What do I do with all the things I want to tell him and the jokes only he would appreciate and the things the two of us did together? Was there any literature (fiction or non-fiction) or art (movies, TV, paintings, sculpture, etc.) that helped you? Again, looking for things from the perspective of friend loss, but as someone who lost a friend, if things about other kinds of grief helped you, please let me know. Thank you.