One of these things is not like the other
December 6, 2013 4:45 AM Subscribe
What is the difference between making excuses for someone's behavior and understanding where they are coming from? I don't have anything in particular in mind. I just see that phrase a lot on here and have heard it a lot.
posted by inmyhead to Human Relations (14 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
It seems totally based on context. If someone is in a bad relationship (family, friend, romantic), they are making excuses for the other person's relationship. But if they are in a good relationship, then they are being supportive and understanding where the other is coming from. This doesn't sound right, however, so I was hoping you all could help me understand this.
I'm not in therapy anymore or I'd ask my therapist. She did say that my baseline of "normal" for how human interactions go was off due to my childhood (raised by my grandmother who definitely had an undiagnosed mental illness), so this may be one of those "normal" things that I need a little help understanding.
I guess a more succinct way to ask: What's the opposite of making excuses for someone?