Living for myself
December 2, 2013 6:50 PM Subscribe
I need to learn how to live for myself first, and not place so much of my self-worth on how people I'm dating view me. Please help.
posted by New Old User to Human Relations (12 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
I've had a pattern my whole life of investing most of my worth into my mates, and then melting down when it breaks off.
Plus, I find myself motivated mostly by people telling me I'm doing well at something. When I lose that motivation, I lose passion.
This is a family thing, my sister committed suicide over it. I've been to therapy for years and not fixed it.
I'd like maybe some other recommendations, books, methods you use to combat it or overcome it. It's starting to happen again, so here I am.
Middle-aged male, divorced, not on meds, occasionally on far too much alcohol.