Friend of friend tells a blatant lie. What do I do?
December 2, 2013 6:38 PM Subscribe
A good friend of a good friend is going around telling a very blatant lie. The problem is that the lie is about a petty topic. I am disturbed by the fact that she is telling a blatant lie regardless of the topic, don't understand why she keeps telling it, and really don't enjoy humoring someone who is clearly lying. However I will seem petty if I object to it. What do I do?
posted by anonymous to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion (81 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Here it is.
This woman is a good friend of a good friend. She is not MY friend though and although I like her I also find her a little questionable in certain ways (being self-centered, perpetuating fights between people rather than resolving them).
The petty lie is that the woman is going around saying that she wears a size 4. There is no way at all that this is possible. I am aware that different people have different proportions and different-looking bodies can wear the same size. So please believe me when I say there is NO WAY that this woman wears a size four. If I were to guess, I would guess 12 or 14. I've seen her bust, waist, hips, there is no part of her that would fit in an 8 much less a 4.
I strongly dislike being lied to. I even more strongly dislike having to pretend to believe and politely go along with a blatant lie when I'm being lied to in my face. I find it to be disrespectful and offensive. I have never asked this woman what size she wears. There is no need to for her to go around saying it in front of me. She may be insecure about her size and I would never ask her what it was. However I don't believe that makes it okay for her to go around making up lies about it.
However, I fear that if I say something, I will be portrayed as the body police. Someone who is overly concerned with the size that other women wear and making some sort of judgment about it. That is NOT what it is. I simply find it very off-putting that she is lying over something so random, and I find it disturbing that she is blatantly lying and expecting others to humor it. It doesn't matter what the topic is.
What should I do? Should I say something to her? If so, what? Should I say something to my friend?