How do I break up with someone who has anxiety?
November 3, 2013 2:13 PM Subscribe
I've been casually dating a man for several months. I truly like him, but it's become pretty clear to me that our relationship styles are out of synch. How do I end things without seeming cliche?
posted by SarahBellum to human relations (12 answers total)
We have great chemistry and have been dating exclusively, but keeping things fairly light, for a few months. He has general anxiety disorder (not medicated) and is in the middle of a stressful time.
We live hours from one another, so the only contact we have between visits is phone or text. When he is stressed, he doesn't communicate AT ALL...and when he is doing well, he just texts a sweet good morning and goodnight, but nothing really conversational.
So, I've started to realize that our relationship styles are really different because I want more contact and conversation in between visits and he just isn't wired that way. In the past, when he's pulled back, I have addressed it directly and he said he would call more, etc. Not so.
Anyway, I just feel like it's time to let go, but I don't know how to do it without it sounding like I'm rejecting him.