How to support a relative post-bariatric surgery during the holidays?
October 31, 2013 9:41 AM Subscribe
I have a relative with some long-time food and weight issues who just underwent bariatric surgery. Making meals with her, cooking and eating out have always been kind of fraught. We'll be having a family Christmas holiday at her house and I'm worried that the heavy emphasis on food will be stressful. Any tips?
posted by amanda to human relations (8 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
What I think is most likely to happen is that everyone in the family will try to go on like normal, including this relative only we'll get to hear a lot from her about how miserable she is. That's generally how most meals with her have gone anyway. I, personally, find this pretty stressful and people end up just shutting her out which is stressful and depressing.
Is there anything we can do (my husband and I) that might make the inevitable, food-focused events less stressful? More enjoyable for her and for us? I, personally, could care less about having a mountain of food but I know some people in this family would seem offended if we didn't have a gargantuan feast.
Are there foods/food types that we could include that would be "normal" but also enjoyable for her?
Any other creative ideas for enjoying the holidays without so much food?