Unsavory colleagues: How do you deal?
October 30, 2013 10:26 PM Subscribe
I'm in a specialized graduate program and I love what I do, but I have a difficult time dealing with some of the strong personalities in my class. I have one year left, but the dynamics are toxic and draining, and it's affecting my well-being. Seeking suggestions and strategies for survival!
posted by stillmoving to human relations (13 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
FWIW, I am an adult who has never had a problem getting along with others, making friends, etc. I have a stable job, a stable relationship, long-term friendships, good hygiene, and all of the other stuff that makes me an average Jane. Professionally, I have worked in a variety of positions, both plebeian and managerial, and never encountered anything like this.
In my current situation, I have classmates (all late 20s-early 40s) who barely say hello or make eye contact, don't invite me to social events, etcetera. Granted, I wouldn't want to spend any more time with them than I already have to, but their behavior towards me is shockingly rude, even bordering on bullying? And in the classroom, the strongest personalities are generally soapboxing, digressing, ego-stroking, or some combination thereof. They have also treated one other student as they have treated me, or perhaps even worse.
This situation really brings me down and it's begun to affect my mental health. I imagine this is what it's like to be in a snarky all-girls high school (or Heathers?) I have spoken with administrators, constructively, who have unhelpfully remarked that this is just the way things are. And while the time I spend with this group is only a small portion of my week, and the rest of my life is really great, the dread going in and the drain going out are brutal. Hoping for some suggestions, wisdom, advice from MeFites...