Pick my therapist, please
October 23, 2013 5:49 PM Subscribe
I'm looking for someone to help me with my social anxiety issues. I met with two therapists. Help me pick one, please.
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I have some moderate social anxiety issues. It's not normally debilitating, but it did recently result in an actual panic attack, and at that point, I decided enough was enough, and I was going to do something about it. I looked for therapists in my area, found a couple on Yelp that were in the Toronto Junction area, had websites I could contact them through and seemed like they might work and contacted them both. I had a consultation with one in person and with the other on the phone. They both have similarly impressive seeming credentials.
Therapist 1, who I met with in person, seems friendly and enthusiastic and is sorta cuddly looking. She is certified by The Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA) certified as a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC). This requires she have a Masters in something therapy-related, but I don't specifically know what hers is in. She immediately made me feel very welcome, and even in our relatively short conversation had fairly insightful things to say about possible root causes of my social anxiety. She has some methods in mind for things I could do to deal with anxious situations, but would also like to explore the historical issues that she thinks might be contributing to the problem. She talked about what therapy would be like and took the time to show me her entire office suit and introduce me to her partner after I said that physically being in new situations was uncomfortable for me. Everything she was saying really resonated with me as comforting and helpful.
She also thinks that I may wish to consider homeopathy or naturopathy or possibly anti-anxiety meds.
I was pretty happy with her right up to that bit when in my brain it was like that moment in sitcoms where a story that's seemed normal suddenly gets crazy and they play the record/tape breaking sound effect and someone says "Wait, what?" Because, homeopathy? Whaaaaaat? Nothing else she said struck me as nutty, but that's a pretty big one. I had been concerned from her profile that she might be a bit on the god-bothering side of things, but no religious elements came into the conversation at all.
Therapist 2 is a member of The Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association but does not indicate that she is certified. However she does have a Masters of Education in Counselling and Psychotherapy, which seems to be the most common educational credential for local psychotherapists who are not full psychologists. I met with her on the phone, and she was not as warm and cuddly seeming, though that may be partly because it was a phone thing. Our actual sessions would be in person. There was lots of official form filling out kinds of questions and a brief discussion of my issue. She listened to my problems and immediately talked about CBT and was quite sure that she would be able to help me manage the anxiety with those methods.
So, I liked therapist 1 quite a lot more than therapist 2, but there's the nagging possibility that therapist 1 engages in a certain amount of non-science-based crapola. I didn't really feel comfy cozy with therapist 2 that much, but she was more focused on an actual method (CBT) to help my anxiety right now, and maybe the not bonding with her thing was as much because of the phone as anything else.
Does therapist 1 seem like a terrible idea because of homeopathy even though I liked her? Is it too important that I like my therapist for me to choose therapist 2? Should I just try again to find someone else that I'll like and who isn't unscientific? Reaching out to therapists is not exactly playing to my strengths because it's exactly the sort of scenario where my anxiety is at it's worst, so I don't want to keep doing this if I don't have to.