How can I get my four month old to like going to sleep?
October 21, 2013 6:18 PM Subscribe
My four month old cries when we are putting her to sleep, she doesn't like going to sleep. How do we get to her to go down to sleep quietly (we're not ready for cry it out)?
posted by echo0720 to health & fitness (16 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My four and a half month old hates going to sleep. Once she's asleep, she'll sleep well at night, but she hates the process of going to sleep. We got in the bad habit of rocking her to sleep in our arms and it worked at first, but now, most of the time, she cries or whines loudly while we are trying to put her to sleep. It's like she knows we're trying to put her to sleep and she doesn't want to go to sleep. The instant we put her in the rocking position, she'll start crying, but if we come out of her room to the living room, she'll stop. Likewise, if we're in her room, in the dark, she'll cry, but keep her in the same position and turn the lights on, she stops (my husband tried this experiment today and it was ridiculous - lights off, crying, lights on, stops, lights off, crying, lights on, stops. We're at our wits end and we're not ready to do cry it out or Ferber (plus, if we just set her down in her crib, she's all smiles and just chats for a while, she's not crying). Does anyone have suggestions?
We have a bedtime routine that we start at around the same time every night (nurse, change into PJs, daddy gives her a small bottle while I read her a book, then one of us attempts to rock her to sleep). We start the routine at 7:30 - I could try starting earlier, but I get home around 5:45 and my husband gets home at 6:30 so much earlier isn't really possible. She's in daycare during the day 3 days a week, and at home with one or both of us the other four days.
She's also a horrible napper during the daytime - for the same reason, she hates going to sleep. But putting her down for naps is usually easier than putting her down for the night. She'll only sleep for 30-45 minutes for naps, but at night, we'll get at least one 4-5 hour chunk. I know at some point we need to sleep train, but I want to wait until she's 5.5 to 6 months old, as that is what has been recommended (plus like I said, she doesn't cry when we put her down in her crib, she just hangs out). So what do we do in the meantime?
I forgot to mention, the only way I've gotten her to go to sleep the past couple nights is nursing her to sleep. I really don't want to turn this into a habit!!
Sorry this was long and babbling, I'm exhausted!