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October 20, 2013 5:57 AM Subscribe
How to manage a relationship with my former protege at a job from which I just got fired?
posted by Sweetie Darling to work & money (14 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I got fired last Tuesday from a job I'd held for 14 years, where I built a very successful program and team from scratch. I am relieved more than anything - I hadn't been happy for a while and was actually in the midst of a 90-day exit plan - but am also hurt and angry about how things were handled.
My #2, a woman @15 years my junior, is taking over some of my roles in an interim capacity while they search for my replacement. She is a lovely person and we have a great relationship. The angel on my shoulder wants her to be successful, but the devil on the other side wants everything to fall apart so my absence is felt and my former boss feels like a chump. (I acknowledge that this is irrational and mean and also realize that if anyone is going to suffer, it's certainly not going to be my ex-boss.)
I've already met her for a drink at her request on Thursday (where I ended up consoling her rather than v/v) and fielded a call late Friday afternoon (where she asked if I'd mind if she contacted a friend of mine about some freelance work), and I've felt less friendly and patient with every contact. I would like to maintain a relationship with her, but need to not feel like a chump for helping the place that canned me (and my ex-boss by proxy). I also really want to move on emotionally and these contacts are tethering me.
Any advice on how to make this a win-win, or at least make it easier on me, without being a shitty friend and mentor?