How to grieve for somebody who is living?
October 19, 2013 6:03 PM Subscribe
My sister was in a car accident two months ago, sustaining severe brain injuries. She is out of danger and is making good progress in rehab but the nature of her injuries means that the brilliant, unique girl I once knew is most likely gone forever.
posted by Naanwhal to human relations (17 answers total) 26 users marked this as a favorite
I see her every day and she greets me with a smile of recognition but I still "miss" her and feel the need to say goodbye to the "old" sister. I can see parts of her personality peeking through - her quirky sense of humour, her love for animals, her cheekiness; but in the long term, she will have memory and cognitive disabilities and probable personality changes. In those early weeks when we thought she was going to die, I went through the archives and made a list of recommendations such as On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and A Grief Observed by CS Lewis but if you know of any resources more relevant to this specific situation I would be very grateful. Fiction, non-fiction, essays, or film suggestions would all be helpful.