My coworkers are brushing me off, is there anything I can do?
October 18, 2013 8:43 PM Subscribe
Two months ago I started teaching at a small community college, a 90 minute drive away from home, two afternoons a week. There are two other teachers who live in the same neighborhood as me who also work at the same college. Actually, it was one of them who alerted me about an opening position there and told me it would be a good opportunity for me.
Only one of the three of us owns a car and the three of us carpooled a few times when I started work there. Then, one day I stopped receiving texts saying "We'll pick you up at X".
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We continued meeting at work regularly, chatting during breaks, and everything seemed normal. I assumed their using public transportation as the cause of their not inviting me to join them.
Last week, as I arrived at work, I casually asked one of my ex carpoolers "Did you catch the early train? I didn´t see you at the station" (It´s a very small one and we used to bump into each other there). He answered "Actually, I came with (car owner). We forgot to ask you if you wanted to join us!". I didn´t make much of it. Then this week, I learned that they again "forgot to ask me if I wanted to join them" one more time, which indicates that it's not probably forgetfulness the cause of their not inviting me.
I am moderately pissed off by their behavior, especially considering that they virtually talked me into accepting the job, and still act (insincerely?) friendly with me at work. What do you think is a mature, professional and graceful way of expressing my feeling their attitude is not ok? Is there a way?