October 17, 2013 11:12 AM Subscribe
I live in Brooklyn with my wife. We were planning on moving to New Jersey to buy a house, and we found a lovely place, made an offer that was accepted, and started visualizing ourselves in this beautiful new house...and then the other shoe dropped.
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This past weekend, we went to our new neighborhood to do an inspection of the house (this is not about the inspection - the inspection turned out fine). On our way there, we noticed a woman on the main drag shouting at no one in particular and thought "oh, this reminds us of Brooklyn." When we arrived at our house, nestled in the suburbs, we chatted with our inspector for a few minutes, and then noticed the same shouting woman coming up our street.
I figured she was just going to pass by. Instead, she went into the house directly across the street from us, and proceeded to start doing things like throwing window screens out the window and dragging the television out onto the front porch, shouting at the top of her lungs the whole time. Eventually the police were called, and she was taken away.
The neighbors all came out on their lawns and so we asked what was going on, and they told us that the house across from our new home was a group home. They had very little information about it, and assured us that this kind of thing is infrequent, but it has happened in the past.
Since then, we've gotten some more information about the building - it's a 3 person group home for people with mental health issues, and it has no on-site manager. The people who live there sign a lease and stay for as long as they choose to or until they can no longer pay rent. An event like this is not an automatic disqualification for living there. It's unclear to me if this woman is still a tenant after Sunday.
We've spent the last few days having a crisis about continuing with this purchase, and trying to get more information about it. It's not that I begrudge people their mental health, but the whole point of moving to the suburbs is to get away from this kind of thing. I don't want to feel like I can't spend time in my front yard for fear of some kind of incident. We went into this purchase with no reservations - really happy about starting our new lives there. and this event has tarnished that feeling, and left us wondering how we should proceed.
Our lawyer has assured us that we can walk away now, losing only the cost of a loan application and the inspection.
So how would you deal with this? Should we walk away? Should we ask for a significant reduction in price? Are we being unreasonable? Can you think of a way that we can make ourselves feel better about this?