I have been suffering for some time with an extruded disc in my lower back, and am scheduled for surgery (discectomy) on Monday morning. I'll be off work for 6 weeks, and will be staying with my Mum in my hometown until I'm well. I am hoping for suggestions on how to best help my physical recovery, and also to stop myself being bored out of my brain.
As far as I know I will be bedbound for the first week, and then will be gradually healing and taking gentle exercise. I'm planning to take my Mum's dog for short walks twice a day once I'm able, and I'm sure I'll be getting some aftercare advice / physio from the hospital. Apart from that I'm going to be pretty much stuck in the house, and my Mum tends to be out and about so I'll be on my own quite a bit apart from the odd visitor. I'm also going through a very difficult time in my personal life (previously
) which isn't helping my mental attitude, and is also the reason why I'm staying with Mum for my recovery. I'm a bit nervous about this as although we have a good relationship now, we had an extremely difficult relationship while I was growing up (she is very overbearing, I like my space among other issues) and I moved out at 18 nearly 20 years ago. I'm worried that being back home will make us revert to an unhealthy dynamic (she is pretty much the only person who I lose my temper with because she can be so frustrating, although I love her to bits, which then leaves me feeling guilty) and I can't cope with that right now.
What I would like suggestions on is:
- What is the best way to gently aid the healing process?
- What can I do to occupy myself, especially the early stages when I'll be in bed? (behave)
- As I'll have time for once, can you specifically suggest any books / mp3s that could be helpful in dealing with my relationship issues and/or learning about meditation?
- What's the best way to manage living back at home as an adult under "my house/my rules" conditions?