Sex Info Books and probably therapist needed.
October 16, 2013 1:42 PM Subscribe
Trying to find resources to help female with a large knowledge gap and issues.
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (9 answers total)
She is brilliant, beautiful, educated, mid 30's, hetero, and a virgin; I'm a male who has had a number of relationships. We've been dating a few months.
She was raised by religious parents, one of whom gave her many sex-negative messages. She was not allowed to take sex education in school, and has not pursued the subject (ie has not read "The Joy of Sex" nor "Sex for Dummies")
She says that she has not been sexually abused.
She does not seem able to fully deal with genitalia, as we have not seen each other without pants, she will only rub mine while wearing thick gloves, and my slow attempt to touch her's ended when I reached her pubic hairline and she burst into tears freaking out a little. (she had been "ok" with being rubbed over her pants). She did not anticipate having that reaction.
Any books she or we should read?
Can you recommend a Chicago area or online therapist with expertise in this sort of thing?
Yes I realize this implies a plethora of questions about "normal" and changing for a partner and should we DTMFA, but I'd rather deal with a qualified therapist for that.