Do I not understand Facebook standards?
October 9, 2013 2:37 PM Subscribe
I feel ridiculous for even asking but...I have a very happy and satisfying relationship with my domestic partner of several years. Seriously...everything's fine except for this one little thing...it's about how we both approach Facebook (we're both in our late 30's). He and I don't communicate, like or comment on each other's walls and we never have. But he does comment in a somewhat flirty manner with his exes (and I mean these are women from MANY years ago), and I've asked him, "What's up with that?" and his response has been, "It's nothing. Just being chatty."
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And yet I can't help but notice that he doesn't make these comments to his male buddies, just his exes. I feel ridiculous even talking to him about this, but he does know it bothers me, he has replied that he'll stop if I find it troublesome, and yet I feel like kind of an idiot for feeling so bothered. I'm in a little bit of a negative feedback loop about the whole situation and I could use some helpful perspective. Am I being unreasonable? Is he being a little bit of an obnoxious flirt with other women? What am I not seeing correctly? And why the hell am I so bothered by this? I know he loves me.