'We like you fine, but we're not buying dinner for you.'
October 9, 2013 8:08 AM Subscribe
We met with a potential wedding reception venue today to get a quote, and the owner suggested that we can invite some people just to the party after the ceremony and dinner. From a cost cutting perspective that sounds awesome. But is it just too squicky, etiquette-wise?
posted by nerdfish to human relations (42 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
The loose plan for the wedding is ceremony at a TBD location, champagne on a boat around the canals, then dinner/party at Venue. At first glance, inviting people just to the party part is really appealing - that way we can include coworkers/friendly acquaintances in the day but control some of the expenses. On the other hand, it feels like there's no non-dickish way to say 'hey, we'd like to buy you a bunch of drinks and dance all night, and sure, come to the ceremony, but we're not including you in the dinner.'
Related: should we count on all of our single guests bringing plus ones? I'm SO not crazy about the idea of having strangers at my wedding (I'm a highly strung introvert as it is), but it also feels churlish to not let our single friends bring dates.
Check my sense, hivemind.