So...is it my turn to ask him out now?
October 9, 2013 12:54 AM Subscribe
Online dating (*sigh*). Two successful dates with the same guy. Is it okay to wait for him to contact me, or should I be more proactive?
posted by Salamander to human relations (21 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
He contacted me on an online dating site, about 4 weeks ago. We chatted a bit, then he suggested meeting that Saturday afternoon. We met, got along like a house on fire, and the date only finished when I had to leave for another appointment.
The following day, he left for a two-week holiday. He emailed when he got there, and we emailed back and forth for the rest of the time. He messaged me the day he arrived back in town and asked me out for dinner that weekend.
Dinner went great and conversation flowed for hours. He paid (I tried to pay half, but he insisted), and gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek goodnight. He said he loved my company and would definitely be in touch. The next day, we had a brief text interaction when I messaged him to say 'thanks again for dinner'.
It's now Wednesday. I would like to catch up with him this weekend. My question is, given that he has been quite traditional in the way he's gone about things so far (initiating contact, booking the restaurant & paying, etc.), should I wait for him to make the next move (or not)? Or is it 'my turn', so to speak?
Answering 'Don't play games/ if you want to call him, call him/ everyone is different so there's no way to know what he's thinking', whilst probably valid, is not really helpful. :) I am trying to understand if there's some acceptable protocol for this kind of thing. I don't want to force something if he's not really interested, but I don't want to turn him off by sitting around passively and letting him do all the legwork.