Making the very 1st move on online dating sites please help!
October 8, 2013 9:23 PM Subscribe
I'm looking for insight into what is a reasonably good first message to send someone on an online dating site. I've been online for a few months and still feel lost. Successful online daters please enlighten me as to how you do it! Snowflakes inside...
posted by outdoorslady to human relations (17 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I am trying to put my shy self out there and have finally, made what I think is a fairly good online profile. Thing is I now want to message people I think are interesting. IRL I am not the kind of girl who makes the first move- but I really want to try this online dating thing out. I wrote 1 woman who I thought seemed really interesting a fairly long message based on her well-written profile and our similar interests and received no response. Another woman messaged me about 5- 1 word messages- like hey baby. I tried to start a conversation and it totally failed. I feel like maybe I need to send a short message or maybe the goal with online match websites is to meet the person quickly offline- feeling lost. If you've met interesting more-than-1-night-stands online, how did the interactions start? Any tips on pushing through my uncomfortableness and just doing it appreciated!