Help me be less frustrated!
October 4, 2013 8:15 AM Subscribe
My default emotion seems to be a mixture of annoyance and frustration. This is itself frustrating. I don't want to be like this.
posted by beerbajay to human relations (32 answers total) 50 users marked this as a favorite
Usually my frustration or annoyance arises when I am attempting to accomplish a specific task but am hindered by some obstacle. These are usually things which are not actually meaningful/changeable so I am basically just making my own experience of life more stressful and not fixing anything. I've been this way for pretty much as long as I remember, but I'm over 30 now, so it's time to figure out how to stop.
* I enjoyed learning in high school but felt hindered by (and was therefore frustrated with) the people who needed more time to grasp a subject.
* Where I live, many people have bikes with kickstands, and they park them all over (behind other bikes, jammed between bikes, etc); I get frustrated when trying to remove my bike from such a bike rack.
* I worked as a programmer where our workflow was constantly interrupted by marketing requests (argh!)
* When I am answering technical questions, certain people will ask (seemingly) non-related questions which interrupt the flow/structure of the explanation.
There's perfectly reasonable explanations for things being the way they are, but while they're happening I get frustrated and annoyed and sort of stressed out, which in turn can lead to me being an impetuous dick (which is something I'm working on not being, but better to attack the cause; thus this question).
So, what kind of tactics/whatever can I use to combat this?