Is it too early - or is it a jerky move - to ask friends if they got a wedding gift I sent six weeks ago?
(Somewhat similar to this question
, but a slightly different angle.)
Some friends got married in mid-September. They went on a one-week trip after the wedding, and have been back for about 1.5 weeks now. I sent a wedding gift (not from their registry) in mid-August, specifically choosing to send it in advance of the wedding so as to not pile on to the craziness of the wedding weekend itself (adding to stuff to deal with at the reception, etc). I have tracking on the package, which shows it being left at the front door with no signature or other proof of delivery. This is less than ideal because I don't know how secure their front door is for package delivery (they live in a large metro area). These are long-term friends, but we have fallen out of the habit of staying in close touch, so I haven't spoken to them since the wedding nor are we likely to have any casual email/phone contact. We live in different cities and traveled for their wedding. They did not mention the gift at all when we encountered them in person at the ceremony (nor would I expect that, necessarily).
I am inclined to write a quick email asking how the honeymoon went and then also checking that they got the package. However, I can't tell if it's aggressive on my part to ask? Or is any faux pas on my part equal to the one they are making in not sending a prompt thank you? And are they really late at this point?
Part of the other problem here is that I'm a stickler for writing prompt thank-you notes - always within 2-3 days of getting something (my wedding thank-you notes and those for my bridal and baby showers were all done in less than a week, I realize I might be abnormal here). When I get a package in the mail I always, unless some technicality of the relationship with the gift-giver precludes it, let them know immediately by email or text something along the lines of "We got a package from you today - it was so kind of you to send it! I will be sure to write you a note to thank you properly very soon, but I wanted to make sure you knew it arrived safely today and we appreciate it very much."
I completely realize that I might be the outlier here, and I truly don't want to cause stress to friends who are likely slammed with getting back into real life after the wedding and honeymoon. I am not upset or angry. But if something I planned for and paid for didn't make it to them, then I'd like to know so I can file a claim or follow up in a timely manner. And I would hate for them to think we never sent a gift, when in fact we did.
Feel free to tell me I'm crazy, I just need a reality check!