October 1, 2013 1:55 PM Subscribe
I've been dependent for most of my life, and I now find myself in a situation where I'm completely alone for huge spans of time. It's depressing. How can I overcome this? Any good resources, means to helping?
posted by MMALR to human relations (11 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I broke up with my longtime girlfriend (5 years) about 3 months ago because I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who didn't support me or help in any way. It was a good decision, but it has been hard. I have since filled my time with activities, but they are beginning to dwindle as the winter months slowly approach. I've also filled a small amount of time going on dates with someone (Just met her). She has a busy schedule and we are taking everything very slowly. That's great! But habits from my past are beginning to creep up and cause spurts of depression.
One of my biggest issues is that I'm over thinking everything as one extreme or the other. It's putting me through a roller coaster of emotional distress. I could be happy for a day, then in a deep depression the next, and it all stems off the fact that I can't be alone. I can hardly remember a time where I was by myself (Maybe 2 years in college, but there were people around). Now, I have no immediate family in the area (Dad moved out of the area a few months back), and most of my friends are busy with their lives.
I imagine volunteering at places around town or doing something with my free time would help, so I've definitely tried to look at other avenues. I'm really looking for a means to digging into the root cause of my issues. Are there any resources to help guide my introspection? Anything that has helped people in the past?