Hi, I’m Anon and I want to leave my 12 Step Program. How?
September 30, 2013 9:03 AM Subscribe
I’ve been a member of a 12 Step program. I've successfully quit my addiction and now I want to leave the group as quickly and painlessly as possible. How do I do that?
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I’ve been a member of a Nicotine Anonymous group for a little over a year. I joined the group to have support while quitting smoking (haven’t smoked in over a year) and I don’t work the steps. I have an issue with NicA in that its emphasis seems to be on the steps as opposed to helping people quit smoking and staying quit. Trevor, one of the old timers with 13 years smober said as much, he said the steps are a guide to how to live your life and not a guide to quitting smoking.
But last week I got a frantic call from an unknown number and it was Maude, another old timer who was upset that I missed a meeting where we were having a group conscious (12 step version of a hive mind) about who would lead our meetings for the next three months. I wasn’t able to think fast on my feet and I got roped into it. Also, we have a small group (typical attendance is 4-5 people) and she was worried that this group could fold if I didn’t attend meetings. Of course Maude has my number and she was sure to call me before last week’s meeting to remind me to attend.
I’m glad the group was there when I needed support, but I have come to really dread going. I was hoping to cut back my meetings to once a month and then to none. The prospect of meeting with Trevor and Maude for three more months just gives me a headache. I can’t fucking stand “sharing” (in a 12 Step sense), circle hugs, and the Serenity Prayer.
I want out of my 12 Step group and I want it in a way that won’t have Trevor and Maude ringing my cell phone sweating me to attend meetings. How do I do that?