By the way, I have a new boyfriend
September 23, 2013 11:28 AM Subscribe
Ex is now a neighbor and attempting to establish civility...how to let him know I'm happily in a new relationship?
posted by Valkyrie21 to human relations (23 answers total)
I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago. I ended it with him due to his emotional affair with an ex-girlfriend but I probably dragged it on too long and ended it really abruptly when one day I just realized I would never get over it. This followed a long period of not talking and anger on both sides. We gradually re-connected a little bit over the past few months due to common friends. Obviously I have huge issues with ex contact, partly because of him, but I am fine with staying very casual acquaintances. However, I am now finding myself unintentionally in an awkward position of how to tell him about my current boyfriend of about a year. We live together and are serious. I never had a specific plan to tell my ex or not I always felt like it was non of his business and we aren't close. Unfortunately the ex recently moved very close to us and we have started to run into each other a lot more at events (our city is not that big). At this point I feel like if he finds out it will look like I was actively hiding my new beau from him which is not fair to either of them. My current boyfriend knows hes my ex when we run into each other but I'm sure he would be hurt if he discovered I didn't explain who he was. Also, recently the ex started ramping up contact and it would really just be easier if he knew I was taken and just to back off because he knows my feelings about inappropriate ex contacting. He's been nothing other than platonic though so it's hard to tell him his level of contact is inappropriate (to me) without bringing up the reason why - a new relationship. I'm not sure how to tell him without it seeming like an in your face announcement. Any ideas for how to gracefully make a late announcement that I am happily taken? I don't care if the ex stops talking to me forever but I do care about my telling him not seeming like needless cruelty.