Please don't Facebook our wedding photos....yet
September 18, 2013 4:52 PM Subscribe
My fiance and I have hired a fancy photographer for our wedding and would prefer that our guests refrain from uploading their iPhone snaps to Facebook et al until we have had a chance to formally release 'the wedding photos'.
One guest that we asked is being....difficult, wondering if it's even worth asking the other guests. Are we being unreasonable? How to best phrase the request, if at all?
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- Very small reception with around 20 people or so
- Several extended family members that weren't invited are miffed but understand we wanted to keep it small and private
- Most if not all are on Facebook, connected to friends and family that won't be in attendance
- The photographer we hired is very, very good. Artistic but can do the standard photos too
- We are not vain people
- Official photos will take no more than a week to be processed and given to us digitally to do with as we please
We both agreed that we want 'control' over how our wedding day is first presented to those that can't attend. We are spending enough time and money making ourselves and the day beautiful and would prefer a professional photograph to be the first image of the happy day, not a blurry iPhone photo with red-eyes and chin-fat.
We floated the idea to one guest - a sibling- a particularly prolific facebooker (comments on everyone's posts, tags herself everywhere, thousands of photos) and we were met with confusion, defiance and then reluctant agreement not to post anything. (we agreed she could 'check in' and post updates, but no photos).
We are well aware that people like to document the day, and provide 'proof' that they are there, but we are afraid that some of our guests fancy themselves professional photographers and think they are 'helping inform those who didn't attend'.
Is this an unreasonable request to extend to the other guests? Is it unreasonable just to ask our guests, enjoy the day, your facebook friends don't need to see photos immediately.
How to best phrase the request, and do we do it day of to the group or have a private 'hey, do you mind not...." convo with each person as we mingle?