What and when are more?
September 17, 2013 12:11 AM Subscribe
How long do you give yourself and your non-boyfriend to make up your minds?
posted by drme to human relations (11 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm struggling with newfound more serious feelings in a defined-as-casual relationship. I know I have feelings for the guy, but I'm not sure what they are. Meaning I don't know what I want. I'm not sure if I want to see him more often, if I want another type of agreement (like exclusivity), etcetera, or what. I just know I want *something* more. It's been a little over 3 months.
How long do I give myself to figure this out? And, when I bring this up to the guy, how long do I give him to sit with it? I know there's the "when you know you know/he's not that into you" things but they don't feel applicable to real life. I don't want to make a hasty decision or have an ultimatum or anything crazy.
I don't want to risk losing what we could have because I throw out big feelings verbally with him while I"m trying on feelings of all sizes early on. I also don't want to be a wuss and say nothing, or not enough.