Disclosing a crush
September 15, 2013 3:38 PM Subscribe
If you have a crush on someone, is it okay to tell them so out of the blue?
posted by mermily to human relations (16 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
There is someone I have known for a long time who I am friends with and I like. It is my piano teacher so I see him once a week. I am not sure if he likes me back. I guess it's about a 50/50 chance. I am not flirty or seductive and do not do dating manual ritual things. But I am friendly toward him and we have a nice time together. I don't want to engineer any situations where I have to be coy or act a certain way that I am not or touch his arm more than a normal amount, etc. I wondered if it would be okay okay if I was leaving next time to say, "Hey, I had a crush on you for a long time" right before leaving. And then just act normal/ kind of pretend I didn't say it next time I see him so it wouldn't come across like I was being like, "WELL?" or so I wouldn't be putting him on the spot.
I have been trying to think through the ramifications. I think it would be okay if he didn't do anything and then I'd kind of feel like I'd given it a shot, and that would be good. But maybe it WOULD be super awkward to say that anyway, and that's why people don't do it that way typically. The other possible ramification is maybe I'd find it more difficult than planned to act normal the next time. I asked another asking out my piano teacher question before but it was too hard and I couldn't follow through. Anyway, I guess I just wanted to see if it was a normal way that people do that or if I should expect him to look at me like I am crazy if I do.