Should this cat-owning/trying-to-conceive couple get a dog? If yes, how?
September 14, 2013 12:50 PM Subscribe
I want to know if I am crazy or not, because the last thing my life needs right now is More Bad Stuff. I am going through a very tough time lately (due to infertility and a dying parent). I also own two (neurotic) cats. I think I need a dog because an outpouring of goodness and unconditional happiness is sorely needed. But I'm trying to get knocked up, both my husband & I work full time, and I've never owned a dog before.
Snowflake details inside, plus bonus question: if we get this dog, should it be a puppy or adult? From a breeder or a shelter?
posted by barnacle to pets & animals (40 answers total)
Okay so, my mom's health is in a bad way. She's had hepatitis C for 20+ years, and it's catching up to her. She's got cirrhosis and a pre-cancerous tumor. She needs a transplant. It's all very scary.
Also, I just found out I am infertile and will need surgery for a slim chance of conceiving naturally, or IVF for slightly better chances of conceiving through SCIENCE! This is a huge freaking blow. I'm in my mid-30s.
(Plus I am thinking of the possibility of me donating a piece of my liver to my mom, and what that means for my chances of conceiving, etc etc etc.)
Suffice to say I'm kind of weepy. And my cats SUCK AT COMFORTING ME (me=sobbing, cat=baleful glance before sauntering off to eat kibble). A dog would be so much better. I foresee a lot of heartache coming my way soon, and I feel like it would so much easier to go through that with a dog. I wanted one even before I got this latest batch of bad news--more like, "someday when the theoretical children are 5-6." but it does feel a bit more urgent to me now.
I've never owned a dog but I've hung out with them plenty. I love how HAPPY and positive and goofy and loyal they are (or at least, my brother's dog, who I'd love to steal). I like how they make you get out of the house (I tend toward being a shut-in, but not happily, more in a depressed sort of way). I like how intelligent they are, how they're so clued in to human emotions. I want that kind of relationship with an animal.
We both work full-time but could do doggy day care or hire a dog walker.
So, my cats. They're very sweet when it's just my husband and me, but they're territorial and pissy whenever other people come over. But they were here first, and we're completely loyal to them. We don't want a dog to make their lives miserable. Though a baby will probably have the same effect, and maybe it's better to "break them in" with a dog before the kid arrives?
If I'm able to get knocked up at all, the earliest we're talking about a newborn is a year from now. So we'd have a year to concentrate on the animals before the nuttiness of brand new baby.
Let's assume this is a good idea. Puppy or grown dog? I've read about how much work puppies are. But also--wouldn't it be better for the cat situation? Any breed-specific advice?
And finally: shelter or breeder? All my cats have been shelter cats. But since our lifestyle and needs are more inflexible now, I want to have the best possible shot at a compatible temperament, and it seems like breed matters a lot.
Hope me, people!
(sock puppetry due to infertility paranoia/privacy)