Coaster no-go doesn't have to blow!
September 13, 2013 4:23 PM Subscribe
We bought theme park tickets but decided not to go. How can I assure my partner that it's really okay?
posted by horizonseeker to human relations (16 answers total)
We decided to splurge on discounted amusement park tickets. Originally, we were hesitant on buying the advance tickets. My partner has a fear of heights but loves roller coasters, though his fear has grown in recent years. We've both noticed that vertigo is now taking longer to subside as we are getting older; I love the feeling and he does not care for it.
Added to the vertigo and subsequent nausea, the possibility of death on roller coasters frightens him. These are valid concerns, and if he doesn't feel comfortable, of course we're not going! I feel very confident in supporting his feelings; if he doesn't want to go, then we'll stay home, go swimming at the university, and go hit balls at the driving range! I am 100% down with that Saturday plan :)
The problem is that we don't have much money; we're students living on savings, financial aid, and work/study. This lifestyle works out perfectly for us, as we live simply. I have no problem sinking the money, as my partner's comfort is worth far more than the tickets cost us! He, on the other hand, is not happy about it. He is upset about the money going to waste. I also get the feeling he might think that I will be disappointed.
But I'm not disappointed! Any suggestions on how I can help him feel better? I love him so much, and it pains me to see him struggle internally. I've reeled in my enthusiasm about the theme park, and directed it towards other possibilities for tomorrow. For the online advance tickets, they put our names on the actual tickets, so we cannot sell them. Anything else I can do? I just want to be as supportive as I can, but don't really know how to go about it in this instance. Thanks in advance, MeFi!