What can I do about harmful and untrue gossip?
September 8, 2013 3:15 PM Subscribe
How can I deal with a person who is spreading harmful lies about me? These lies have direct negative consequences for me at work and in my private life.
posted by anonymous to human relations (19 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I work in a small office. The director has a friend (Jane) who briefly worked part-time in the office.. Jane is also the wife of a close family friend. Jane has had many issues for being a gossip in the past and most people tolerate her because her husband is a really nice person.
In the last few years, Jane has gone to my parents to tell them totally untrue things about me (very bizarre lies about how I overeat in the office, for example).
With time these lies have started to become more serious, like about me doing irresponsible things at work, or how someone has been hired to replace me in the office. I recently took time off to visit relatives, and she has started the rumor that I lied in order to get time off.
Like I said, these things are 100% lies, and my parents are thankfully on my side. What worries me is that this could be the tip of the iceberg. I don't know what she is saying to my director. Jane is really close to her and I have noticed a change in how my director treats me lately. I am not sure about how to deal with this. Whether I should address the issue with Jane, with my director, or if I should go to a lawyer (could I even?)
Thank you for your advice!