What are some nice feminine sounding gender neutral names?
September 6, 2013 4:43 AM Subscribe
To be more clear, what do you think are some names that, while you would first assume someone with that name is a woman, if it was a man you wouldn't be all like "Why is this guy called Jennifer?"
posted by Fermin to human relations (137 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
Now a bit of background for the question if you're curious or feel you need to know it to answer properly.
I just got a job at a contact center, and I have a few days to choose the name I will go by when on the phone. I don't have to change it, but with a name like mine (it's the same as my username, I'm that original) you can imagine people asking me what the heck I said, how it's spelled, how it's pronounced (add the rolled R), and while I'm fine with all of that in my daily life, I don't want to go through it on every call.
The thing is that I'm intergendered (check the wikipedia article on Genderqueer if you've never heard the term), and while I don't want that to be a point during the call either, it's true that a lot of the time I don't sound like a man (my voice has been changing pitch recently, I'm biologically male but my whole body has been changing since I've accepted myself, as if I was taking hormones, which I'm not. My voice pitch is so high that I am in a choir and sing the alto voice). Depending on the day, mood, etc. I sound more like a woman, more like a man, or something in between.
Of course most people think of gender in binary, so their brain will want to put me in either one or the other box. And I would like to go by a name that will let callers do just that. And to be honest I prefer to be placed in the female box (yeah, I still don't discard the possibility of being transgendered, there's a lot of soul searching going on).
Could you help me with names that would fit that? Names that if you were in doubt if the person on the phone was a man or a woman you would assume it's a woman, but if you thought the voice was masculine you wouldn't think twice about it?
I don't really like those names that are starting to be a trend now, that sound like last names (like McKinley).