How should I cope when sharing a car with a dangerous driver?
September 5, 2013 8:39 AM Subscribe
I've recently had occasion to take a multi-hour drive with someone who who very consistently drove in a matter that felt very dangerous to me. There was a lot of tailgating, sudden lane changing, and more than a few last-second turns. I sat quietly in the back seat.
posted by Sokka shot first to travel & transportation (24 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
This is not the first time I've shared a car with someone who I felt was driving dangerously. My usual policy in this situation is to point out, once, calmly, "Hey, you're following a little close." I know this is already a very contentious move—many people (for understandable reasons) cannot stand having their driving criticized. I know it's generally considered to be rude, so I try to avoid saying anything unless I feel like it would be genuinely irresponsible not to.
At the same time, I find it intolerable to be in a vehicle with someone who's putting my life and the lives of the people around them in danger. I often can't help sudden gasps when someone has to slam on the brakes or make a sudden turn—vocalizations which I can only assume are irritating for the driver to have to listen to.
I'm well aware that trying to change other people's driving is a sucker's game, and that raising a stink about it in the car is not going to make me any friends. So my question is this: How can I feel less threatened when I'm in a vehicle whose driver is driving in a way I perceive to be dangerous?