I like him. I really really like him.
September 4, 2013 2:06 PM Subscribe
I've met this guy, I'm developing on crush on him, and now I just want something to happen! What do I do from here?
posted by Ocellar to human relations (24 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
There's this guy. I met him a couple of months ago and I've developed a bit of a crush on him over the last couple of weeks.
At first I thought that it was reciprocal but now I'm not so sure. I've initiated all of our hanging out including a cycle ride in a group, going on a walk just the two of us as well as a couple of yoga classes. He's said yes to everything so I guess I can assume he likes spending time with me as a friend. But these activities have all been pretty platonic-- he complemented me once on the necklace I was wearing, but that was pretty much as hot as it got.
Thing is, I'm really tempted to just lunge and kiss him. Other thing is, from past experience, I've learned that few guys will stop you but that doesn't mean they want to date you... unfortunately for me.
I am inclined to get obsessive about crushes in a pretty unhealthy and all consuming way. I really like this guy and I would like to date him to see if it works, but I also don't want to push things if they're not going to happen. I'd like to keep him as a friend, if this is possible. I just feel like I need to do something now before things progress to a whole other fantasy level in my head... any suggestions on how to proceed?
(also, as a side note, most of my relationships have followed the pattern of me liking the other person more than they like me, which feels sort of crap and I'd really like to avoid that sort of situation this next time, which makes me even more hesitant about being the lunger/initiator)