Elle Woods Problems
September 4, 2013 6:03 AM Subscribe
How can I be influential 'by default'?
posted by dinosaurprincess to human relations (6 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I don't think I can do this without going to extremes. Sometimes I am taken seriously if I radically change my speaking pattern, and don't smile, or get angry. But then I risk changing the dynamic and ruining relationships, or coming across as stiff and unyielding. I feel like this is my secret card which I can draw out on very important topics, but would like to be able to be natural and MYSELF (fun, caring, kind of goofy) but be heard and acknowledged by default.
For those of you who have this ability, especially if you have developed this through experience, I would be very grateful to hear your advice.