September 4, 2013 2:03 AM Subscribe
What do I get as a "sorry I can't come to your wedding even though I really wanted to!" gift for a couple whose wedding is vegan, dry, simple, on relatively short notice, and the invitations specified "no gifts, please"?
posted by Mizu to grab bag (28 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My budget is around $50. I recently was chatting with the bride to be and she was regaling me with all the usual wedding woes, including how and why they ended up refusing to make a gift registry and asking for no gifts. Long story short, they are living with another couple and seriously have no room, in addition to being relatively anti-materialistic people. I mentioned again how sad I was that I couldn't make it, and how I'd had a brief moment of etiquette angst because you're supposed to send a gift if you can't make it to a wedding, but they said no gifts, but I wanted to send something anyway so she should expect some trees planted in Israel or a star named after the two of them, hahaha. Then of course she said, sincerely (she is very sincere) "I would love something like that!" So oops, I screwed up my out. Luckily I love giving presents, so this is not a big issue.
Normally in a case like this, I'd go to heifer.org, but this couple is vegan! I want to find something that isn't overly preachy, something that isn't just a cash amount (I considered a kiva.org card, but that strikes me as giving them work to do - finding people to loan to - when I'd like to keep it as simple as possible for them. They're busy!) something non-denominational and preferably totally religion-free (so please ignore the joke about Israeli trees), and something preferably a little charming or unique. I don't think that animal shelter type donations would be appreciated (I'm not sure what echelon of vegan they're on at any given moment, but they don't have pets.) They're both super smart, nerdy people, in addition to all their other qualities.
I guess my main problem in searching is that my price point is really low for gifts of charity, but honestly $50 is my absolute cap. I also want to keep it happy, in the spirit of a wedding, you know?
Thanks for any ideas you might have!