Laughter is the best medicine, except when it isn't.
September 3, 2013 10:45 PM Subscribe
I laugh a lot. How do I stop?
posted by so much modern time to human relations (6 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I laugh a lot. I'm a naturally bubbly person anyway, but I laugh for a variety of reasons. I laugh when I'm nervous, surprised, feeling awkward, offended, or don't know what to say. Of course, sometimes I'm actually amused.
It's beginning to worry me because I'll often deflect how I feel with laughter, and I'm working on becoming more assertive. I've also recently noticed that I tend to laugh when someone has said something that offends me or even, a dig or minimizes my feelings or experience. So I laugh because I don't want to offend the other person by saying, "That really was not cool" or "Please do not speak to me in that way."
I'm also worried that it'll keep me from being taken seriously in a professional setting. I recently started a new job, and I'm rather nervous since I want to make a good impression, so I've noticed that I laugh a lot--again, to deflect my own nervousness.
How can I stop laughing so much? I think most people take this as a sign of positive energy, and so far I haven't really received negative feedback on it. I do consciously control it during situations where I know I'll be nervous (job interviews, first dates), but sometimes when I'm surprised (like today when our CEO was kind enough to give me a shout-out), I'll laugh when it would be far better to stay quiet.
(I do have anxiety which I control with glorious medication, and up until pretty recently I was in therapy.)