September 2, 2013 8:21 AM Subscribe
I drunkenly fooled around with a married friend and now feel terrible about it. What, if anything, do I do next?
posted by anonymous to human relations (28 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
At a rowdy, drunken, late-night party, a friend and I ended up fooling around for a while before I realized I was too drunk and went home. We did not actually have sex, but it was more than an innocuous kiss. I am single, but my friend is happily married. I'm not close to my friend's wife, but I've met her once or twice and we are Facebook friends.
I feel bad about what happened. My inclination is just to never mention it again and let my friend tell his wife when / if he wants to, but do I have an ethical obligation to do something more? Do I need to tell her myself even though I barely know her, or do I butt out because for all I know they have the kind of relationship where this is permissible? Do I bring it up with him or avoid contacting him or act like it never happened? Help.