How to prevent someone adding me to their bank and other accounts?
August 30, 2013 7:33 PM Subscribe
How do I prevent my mother from adding me to her accounts?
posted by winna to human relations (9 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Today my mother informed me that she plans to add me to her bank accounts in order to protect it from my sibling and ensure it goes to my sibling's child as my mother intends. I told my mother that she needed to talk to a lawyer to protect the assets for my sibling's children if that was what she wanted but I would not get involved under any circumstances and she should not put me on any accounts. I made up some gibberish about tax implications that might be true for all I know, but even if there were no downside for me other than the enormous emotional and mental toll I'd still refuse.
Unfortunately my mother's one great gift is that she only hears what she wants to hear, so I have absolutely no confidence that she will respect my wishes. In fact, I'd be amazed if she hadn't already done it and that was her way of working up to telling me about it.
This leads to my question:
How do I prevent her from adding me to bank accounts? I am going to run a credit report and verify my credit freeze is still in effect to prevent her from adding me to credit accounts, but I don't know if that will stop her from adding me to bank accounts or other accounts? Can I call the banks in her town and tell them not to add me?
Please don't tell me I should be willing to help my mother out - for any number of reasons that is absolutely not an option.