How to help things go well
August 30, 2013 4:35 PM Subscribe
My friend began dating an acquaintance a few months after meeting, and became pregnant 2 months after that. She is in her later 30s, divorced, he is in his mid 30s, never married. She decided to keep the baby.
posted by galenka to human relations (11 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
He was here in the US on contract and had to return to his home country (the Netherlands) within a few months. After a lot of indecision, they decided the best thing to do was for her to leave her job and join him in the Netherlands, and marry in order to make that easier. They are now married, about 8 months after first meeting.
I would appreciate hearing some best practices on how they can make this work out, or things that she can do on her own to make the situation easier. If she had not become pregnant, there would be been no way they would have married at this point. They are still getting to know each other.
I would appreciate hearing thoughts from people who have been in this situation (unexpected pregnancy, quick marriage to a relative stranger): the things that helped, the things that could have been done differently, and the things that couldn't have been helped no matter what you had tried.