What are the chances of pregnancy using both methods of contraception?
August 28, 2013 1:56 PM Subscribe
I am now in a committed relationship with a woman, and both of us are virgins. We have discussed at length our desires, concerns, dislikes, and fears about sex, and we are both horrified of an accidental pregnancy.
posted by 8LeggedFriend to human relations (39 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Before this relationship, I thought long and hard about having children, and although I am only 22 years old, I believe that because of my own health issues (diagnosed on the autism spectrum) and dislike of children that having a vasectomy done would be the best choice for me. I believe that I would be a terrible father and that this will not change in the future, regardless of what age I am. Better to not have children than turn out to be as bad of a father as mine was to me.
Now because of her own health issues she has also considered a tubal litigation (female equivalent of a vasectomy?) because she doesn’t want to pass her health issues onto a child. She is 26 years old with a severe case of Crohn’s Disease.
An issue we are concerned about is that I might not be able to make an appointment to have a vasectomy done for a couple more months because of employment and appointment times, and we both would like to have sex before then. However the chance of an accidental pregnancy scares us both and we’re worried about having sex until there is a 100% certainty it cannot and will not happen.
What are the chances of an accidental pregnancy if I use a condom and she uses a birth control pill? Will that be safe enough that we can be certain of no pregnancy until either I or both of us have our sterilization operations done?