How can I deal with grief about selling my house?
August 26, 2013 10:10 AM Subscribe
I owned a beautiful new home for seven years and had to sell it this year due to practical factors such as distance to work for my wife, daycare, and so on. I am struggling with a kind of grief about it. The new owners move in today and last night I had a farewell party with some friends at the house which helped, but I stayed there all night taking photos and crying and trying to memorize every inch of it. I'm talking literally crying on the front lawn and feeling like I couldn't breathe.
posted by The Hyacinth Girl to health & fitness (12 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
This was a home I saw being built from the ground up and which I poured a lot of energy and time into, thinking it was my forever home. I am absolutely sick at heart to have lost it, even though I made a considerable profit from it.
Now we are renting an apartment while we house search, but this only makes it worse -- the decent homes in our new area (Toronto) are way out of our price range and there are only small, fixer uppers full of asbestos, musty basements, etc within our grasp. This has caused considerable stress for us, because I refuse to settle for something less than what I had even though this is now impossible, but my wife is more willing to buy a home that requires extensive renovation. I'm on the verge of giving up and just renting indefinitely, even as I struggle with some difficult feelings of regret, sadness, and the strange sense that I somehow betrayed my old home by selling it.
Am I overreacting or is this level of grief and sadness normal when selling a beloved home? And how can I move on from a place that I never wanted to leave?