Cheating: Clueless girlfriend edition
August 24, 2013 1:43 PM Subscribe
How do I move on after infidelity? I recently discovered that my BF has been cheating on me. Need advice on how to proceed, mentally/emotionally - snowflakey details inside.
posted by tillei to human relations (18 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Last week I found out that my boyfriend (we have been together for four years) has been cheating on me. Cheating as in - He conducted a long-term (over a year) emotional and physical relationship with a coworker AND has admitted that there were also multiple random one-offs with people he met on craigslist and elsewhere.
I had NO...IDEA.
I know I must be the dumbest girlfriend alive to have been so completely blindsided by this, but I trusted him completely.
I am ashamed, sad, devastated, angry - I feel stupid, duped, ignorant, everything.
He initially expressed "regret" and a desire to reconcile, but I have not heard from him in over three days, so I assume that is off the table.
I guess my question (aside from why would someone do this?) is how to move on from this?
How do I trust the next man who comes into my life?
I am taking advantage of counseling - are there any specific questions/avenues I should be pursuing in regards to therapy?
We are late 30s/early 40s, if that helps.
I can provide more details if necessary.
Thanks in advance...