My gf keeps irrationally trying to push me away.
September 30, 2005 4:46 AM Subscribe
I'm in a long-distance six-month-old relationship with a wonderful woman (we see each other every weekend, and I plan to be with her next year), who recently, literally turns nasty on me, casting all sorts of wild accusations (details below). We "talk" all night - usually her throwing all sorts of things at me and saying we're over and how she no longer trusts me - essentially trying to push me away. I deny it and try to remind her of all the wonderful things we have.
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The things she hates about me include:
- the fact that most of my friends are female, and she accuses me of fancying them or having crushes on them. Never mind that most of them are lesbians.
- that all my Internet friends are damn weirdos. (She's not net aufait)
- me occasionally mentioning her on my blog (since taken down). I stupidly referred to an early incident about six months ago which she found in the archives, and she took it to mean that I was making fun of her, whereas I was making fun of me.
- mentioning that my Dad has mistresses and once offered to procure me a non-white bride led to all sorts of wild accusations about me being too (ethnic), and wanting a "perfect wife" of my own. Despite the fact that outside my physical appearance, I'm about as ethnic as Dubya.
We both end up with sleepless nights, she calms down next morning, professes her undying love to me while acknowledging that she is trying to hurt me to scare me away because she is scared, she knows not why.
Then sooner or later, the same cycle starts up again. It's cropping up faster and faster - twice in two nights now.
What can I do - be the punchbag forever to keep her, or decide that enough is enough, and let her push me away as she wants?