Frustrated beyond beleif
August 13, 2013 3:18 PM Subscribe
I am in the last year of my PhD. My supervisor keeps canceling meetings last minute due to a number of personal events occurring (i.e. his life seems like a lifestyle movie) and my patience is wearing thin. My project has greatly slowed down - not sure what to do anymore.
posted by sabina_r to human relations (15 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I feel like my whole life has been put on hold until I can submit my PhD thesis. In the past year, I have been working unsupervised most of the time. I work in an extremely specialized area and there are not many people around that could just take my supervisor's place. Not to mention that they would need months just get the proper handle on what my project is about.
My current supervisor has had a number of seemingly legit events occur that made him largely absent from work. He is getting a divorce from his wife and his father is dying of terminal cancer. However, I often feel he is taken all this too far and using it as an excuse to avoid work he doesn't feel like doing.
Few months back, I spoke to his boss about this (I couldn't take it anymore - my PhD progress has ground to a halt). His boss spoke to him and for about 3 months, things have greatly improved. As in he didn't cancel meetings and actually read what I sent him.
Now things have slid back to what they were. I am crying in frustration this morning because he has canceled yet another meeting by sending me a text at 3am to tell me that his father has taken a turn for the worse. He didn't offer to reschedule. He also often doesn't reply to emails so I have to "stalk" his office to corner him into making another meeting. I am now at a point again where I MUST have input from him.
I am sitting around wasting precious time. I am already on my first extension. What would you do?