How to stop being nosy-ed(?).
August 12, 2013 9:38 AM Subscribe
My roommate asks me questions that I find annoying, and I'd like to know if there's a way to peacefully stop.
posted by MiuMiu to Human Relations (39 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Here are the questions I have been asked over time.
I'm also listing my being-annoyed level in the scale of 100 (that's just for fun) :)
1. When he received a package for me:
"May I ask what it is? Or is that personal?"
(my annoyed level: 98)
2. When me going out:
"Where are you going?"
& When coming back:
"You went to XYZ?"
3. After I wore sunglasses to a birthday party at night, I was asked if I was doing drugs and therefore hiding my eyes. He said this inquiry was also party due to the fact that I had said I was trying to start "a" business with my friend but couldn't tell him what it was. Later he told my friend he had to ask this because he was wondering how I was supporting myself because I didn't have a job (=selling drugs).
About the ""a" business" thing, all I had originally said was "I can't tell you what kind of business because my friend and I decided to keep it a secret!" Is this a suspicion-provoking statement? Does anyone know of a better way of saying this or something to explain why your business idea is secret?
I think I might be creating a bad cycle because way earlier I have already started to avoid contact with him because I don't want to be asked questions, but it might have made him even more 'curious' or 'suspicious' of me (thus leading to the recent sunglass-drug inquiry).
After a while of me giving him one-word / super short answer to his question every time, he seems to have gotten the idea that I hate to be 'asked' and he started to ask things like this instead:
"Are you XYZ (whatever question)? But you don't have to answer if you don't want to."
... I guess this is considerate, but it feels even more awkward, haha.
So my question is, is there a way to peacefully & nicely avoid being 'asked?'
(Please feel free to criticize me - maybe I'm not supposed to be annoyed!!)